FAMILY LIVING, the Birds and the Bees

While walking to church on Sunday, L wanted to double check:

“Now, HOW does daddy’s seed get inside of you, again?”

E assured me, in a glance, “I’ve got this.” Then she put her arm around L‘s shoulders and commenced, “You know, like when frogs…” What? Next she went into a lecture on salmon.

No “birds and bees” in our household. We work on a whole other level – “frogs and salmon”.

The thing is, I don’t know if L mentally turns off part way through serious discussions, or if he just cannot wrap his mind around the act of sexual intercourse. But he is, at random times, genuinely interested in understanding correctly. And we are likewise interested in him asking of us, before he looks for answers elsewhere.

Bryant had a good talk with him before bed that night. And L asked some really good follow-up questions, like, “Why would you do that?!”

It occurs to us, in the case of further confusion, we may find it necessary to draw a labeled illustration for inquiring children.  And there will be no frogs or salmon involved.
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    September 30, 2015

    Oh my goodness Rach, what sweeties! It is a topic I’ve been meaning and wanting to get to (for a year now), but one that I’m still fearful of encroaching upon. I’d love to chat! Hope you are well!

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    September 30, 2015

    Your so cleaver, how & when does a parent get on this subject?
    If you start a lecture on the subject sign me up!

  3. Rachel
    September 30, 2015

    We decided early on that when the children started asking honest questions, we’d give them honest answers. E asked at age 6. L didn’t ask until this year. And J isn’t in “the know”. We don’t give TMI, only enough to satisfy their question. They are young enough that they ask follow up questions without embarrassment. And those follow up questions usually come at strange/random times. That is totally okay with us! It makes for great posts 🙂

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    September 30, 2015

    LOL!! Frogs and Salmon indeed.

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    September 30, 2015

    oh, Rach! i love that E, she’s such a smart girl. props to you and Bry for giving honest answers! i’ve tried to be open with my kids and not share more info than they need, but as they get older it gets trickier. argh. Paisley is wavering on the whole “being a mom” thing tho, because she doesn’t want her tummy cut open. lol. i told her there might be another way to get a baby out, but didn’t elaborate. hehehe.

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