THE LIFE COACH SCHOOL PODCAST – Brooke Castillo

Episode 2 – HOW TO FEEL BETTER

“Everything you feel is a choice.”

I went back to yesterday’s activity, my list of experiences I am done having in my life. Remember these?

  1. Complaining and Criticizing
  2. Skin blemishes
  3. And my Revolving Door of Coping Tactics

And then, the new experiences or behaviors I am introducing to replace those old experiences:

  1. A belief that “everything in life is rigged in my favor”
  2. Face regime
  3. ONE DAY – a year of podcasts

Let’s move on to today’s podcast. Three questions:

FIRST. What emotion am I hoping to feel from these new experiences?

Three emotions? The results of my three new experiences? I put some thought into this. I want to feel COMPLETE. I want to feel CONFIDENT. I want to feel PEACE. Those are what I came up with.

SECOND. What do these emotions REALLY feel like?

Complete – Calm, steady, useful, in control of me and the situations around me.

Confident – Self-aware, satisfied with my condition, outward focused.

Peace – Calm, a feeling that I am exactly where I am supposed to be, doing exactly what I am supposed to be doing.

THIRD. Understanding that my thoughts create my emotions, what would I be thinking if I were already feeling these emotions?

  • I am valuable
  • I am needed
  • I am inspired
  • I am loved
  • I am forgiven

Ah ha moment! WHAT IF THESE THINGS ARE ALREADY TRUE OF ME? What if I believed that I was already all these things – what if I believed these thoughts about myself? What if, by believing these thoughts, the desired emotions followed?

“All our emotions, including happiness, are created in our minds.”

I just listened to a different podcast, discussing natural laws, or “divine laws”:

BYU SPEECHES

THE LOVE AND LAWS OF GOD – President Russell M Nelson

“(An) experience by which I came to see the power of divine law came during my career as a medical doctor and scientific researcher.

After graduating from medical school, I pursued advanced education in surgery. At that time, there was no such thing as heart surgery. Then I teamed up with other researchers in the daunting task of making an artificial heart and lung machine. We knew that such an apparatus could possibly maintain the body’s circulation while repairs might be made on the heart. But during that early era, there was much we did not know.

Then one day, two truths … spoke to my inquiring mind. These truths were, first, that all blessings are predicated upon obedience to law; and second, that to every kingdom there is a law given.

Well, I reasoned that if every kingdom had a law, there must be laws that govern the beating heart. I was determined to discover those laws and obey them. By doing so, blessings would come, and lives could be saved.

In medical school I had been taught that if one touched the beating heart, it would stop beating. However, one of the first laws we discovered in the lab was that we could touch the heart of an animal without losing its heartbeat. This finding opened the door later to uncovering another law that made more complex open-heart operations possible.

We learned that if we added potassium chloride to blood flowing into the coronary arteries, the heart would stop beating instantly. Then, when we nourished the heart with blood that had a normal sodium/potassium ratio, the heart would spring back to its normal beating pattern. Literally we could turn the heart off long enough to repair it, and then turn it back on again.

Decades later when I explained this to a group of medical students, one prominent professor asked, “But what if it doesn’t work?” My answer? It always works, because it is based on divine law.

Divine law is incontrovertible! The same can be said of the law of gravity, and the laws of foil and lift that allow airplanes to fly. Each is an absolute truth. Doctors or pilots do not have the power to change those laws, but their understanding of them safeguards lives.

My emotions are created by my thoughts – a divine law. I, like a doctor or a pilot, do not have the power to change that law, but my understanding of and use of that law can safeguard my desired life-experience.

Interesting, right?

Follow up activity:

At any given moment in any day, I ask myself:

  1. How am I feeling right now?
  2. What thoughts do I have and believe that is creating this feeling?