“I want to be really clear that the basic concept of the model is not something that I invented. It’s a basic truth. What I invented was just a way of looking at it, a way of organizing your brain around it. It’s just a tool that I created. The concepts behind the tool are universal truths. There are many models that are very similar to this one because it is based on a universal truth.”

I think that I will progress more smoothly through my ONE YEAR journey by understanding this “universal truth”. I will use Brooke’s model because it makes sense to me. And because it is used by at least three of the podcast hosts I am listening to, currently.

Let’s look at the different parts of the model:

CIRCUMSTANCE – Just the boring facts. Things that happen in this world that we can’t control like other people’s behavior or the weather. Our past. We have no control over our past. It’s done.

  • It is -30 degrees outside
  • My teenager didn’t go to church today
  • I weigh 300 pounds
  • Traffic is stopped or the bus is late
  • My three kids are sitting on the couch talking

Circumstances are just the facts. But circumstances can trigger thoughts.


  • It is so so cold outside
  • My teenager doesn’t believe in God anymore
  • I am fat and ugly
  • I am going to be late, and that will make me look bad
  • The kids must be planning to make our family breakfast

My friend, Jo, said to me recently, “I had ten kids in my family growing up.”

That is the fact. That is the circumstance. There were ten kids in the family.

She continued, “So my parents were never able to help me with anything. I had to learn to be really independent.”

Those are the thoughts she attached to the fact that she had ten children in her family growing up.

Thoughts cause feelings. What happened in her past, or what has happened in my past, has no control over us, until we put a thought to it.

FEELINGS – One word descriptors.

Jo’s thoughts lead to Jo’s feelings. And those feelings could go in different directions, depending on her thoughts surrounding the circumstance.

Pride: “I am an independent woman. I can do anything I set my mind to.”

Victimized: “I never had anyone to help me. I was always alone. I am still alone.”

Defiant: The feelings Jo actually admitted to me were, “It was lonely. I didn’t like it. I will never ever do that to my children. In fact, I will do everything in my power to not put my children through what I went through.”

“Look at all the different thoughts you could choose to think in that moment. Most of us don’t take the time to think about what we want to think about. We just let our brain pick something by default. Whatever we choose to think in that moment, whether it’s consciously or unconsciously, will create how we feel in that moment. How we feel in that moment will determine what we do.”

Feelings cause actions.

ACTIONS – All of our feelings will drive certain action, inaction, or reaction.

“I really want you to think about what you’re feeling… Actions are going to be very different based on what you are feeling. Your actions will always determine your results.”

Actions cause results.


“The result you create is always going to prove that original thought.”


I found, personally, that labeling what’s going on in my mind isn’t difficult. That was a thought. That was an emotion. That was a circumstance. That was a result. Or whatever. I can do that. I understand the model well enough to do that. But changing those patterns hasn’t come as easily. Thought-swapping hasn’t come naturally, even when it makes perfect sense to me.

“So many of us try to do affirmations. We try to think new thoughts, but because we don’t believe them, our brain just says, No.”

What if we went from a negative thought that we already believe, to a less-negative thought that we can believe. And then maybe, after practicing that thought for some time, we can change it to a neutral thought that we can believe. Small steps to thinking and believing a positive thought.

“Your brain wants to prove itself true. The brain likes to be right. When you start trying to change your thinking, you’re going to have this cognitive dissonance. You’re going to have this discomfort of adjusting from one thought to another. Most people don’t like the feeling of that discomfort, and so they give up on trying to adopt new beliefs. I want to offer to you that if you’re willing to go through the discomfort… once you’ve thought the new thought and believed the new thought enough times, then it becomes the easier thought to think. That’s where you want to get with yourself. You want to get to the place where thinking really positive, nurturing, nourishing thoughts comes naturally. You can’t get to the point until you practice it over and over and over again… I promise you it’s worth the initial discomfort of being in a space where you’ve proven yourself wrong. If you’re willing to be wrong, then you’re going to be willing to adopt new thoughts. You’re going to be willing to adopt new ways of thinking about yourself, which will ultimately change your entire life, because it will change the way you feel, it will change the way you act, and it will change the results you get.”

Some of my previous posts, and many of my future posts, I anticipate, will be referencing this model: C T F A R. Know it. Get in the habit of using it.