How was your holiday week? How did it go?

“I really want you to answer these questions. What worked? What didn’t work? How will I do that different?”

Okay. Let’s do this. Thanksgiving went well. I felt good. I felt peace in relationships. I felt mentally clear, organized, even inspired. I felt physically strong – I ate the foods that served my body and my goals. I knew I had done well, because I felt phenomenal.

Christmas was different. I didn’t prepare properly. And I didn’t execute a plan, because I really didn’t have a plan. I ate, and then I had headaches and an upset belly for three days afterward.

WHAT WORKED? Thanksgiving worked. I had a plan. Not only was I on board, but Bryant and the children were on board with the healthy menu. I also gave myself some room for a few things I wouldn’t normally eat. It was part of the plan. I didn’t feel tempted to eat what I know my body could not handle because I didn’t make it available at our dinner table. Plenty of food. Plenty of satisfaction. Plenty of laughter. Plenty of holiday spirit.

WHAT DIDN’T WORK? Christmas was absolutely lovely. But my lack of planning did not serve me well. It was as if I was not planning on purpose, because I was honestly planning on not sticking to any plan. Does that make sense? I ate what I wanted to eat. And then I ate more than I wanted to eat – even when my belly, my physical body, was saying, NO MORE. I thought, But I might not eat like this tomorrow, so I need to live it up! And then I ate like that the day after Christmas because all the same foods were available to me. And then I ate like that the third day because, why not.

HOW WILL I DO THAT DIFFERENT? I will make a plan. I can include some treats into the plan. That is fine. That is intentional. But I will make a plan. Let me try it. Let me try it on New Years Eve.

Brenda talks about a “shame spiral”. I ate poorly on Christmas, so I continued to eat poorly the next day, and then the next day. Maybe I will wait until the New Year to make better choices.

When we get into a shame spiral, we’re going in the complete opposite direction of where we want to go. Let’s talk about a road trip. We want to be driving from Provo to St George, and then we notice, at some point, that we are driving toward Salt Lake City instead. We would, of course, in this example, stop the car and make a course correction. If we want to still end up in St George, we will need to stop and course correct, right?

“I am heading in a direction that I don’t want to go… Stop the car… Really think about this road trip analogy. No matter how far into the road trip you are, at any given point, when you find out you are going in the wrong direction, you stop the car and you course correct.”

And, of course, rerouting earlier in the road trip makes it a quicker trip to the desired destination. Of course. But, at any point in the trip, course correcting will take you where you want to be quicker than not course correcting at all. Right?

“Do not fall into the spiral of shame and regret.”

Stop the car. Reroute. And let’s get us back to where we intend to be.

I am okay with me. I am okay with the choices I’ve made – both the Thanksgiving choices and the Christmas choices. My body has worked brilliantly as a gauge: healthy verses unhealthy choices. I am grateful to my body. Now, let me honor my body. Let me reroute.

Next DAY #59 SO WHAT

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