Let’s start out today with a little Brene Brown:

“If we want our children to love and accept who they are, our job is to love and accept who we are. We can’t use fear, shame, blame, and judgment in our own lives if we want to raise courageous children.”

My mantra, in the mornings, for five minutes, goes something like this: I am 100% worthy (breathe in), just the way I am (breathe out). I am 100% lovable (breathe in), just the way I am (breathe out).

Last night, after dinner, we had a discussion with the children. We used a $20 bill. This is Jody’s idea. I asked each of the children what they could buy with that $20 bill. They dreamed up all sorts of things! Legos. Legos. Okay. Most of their ideas, I guess, revolved around Legos.

Then I wadded the bill into a ball, and asked them what they could now buy with that $20 bill? They got it. It’s value hadn’t changed.

Then I spit on the bill. I threw it on the ground, I jumped up and down on the bill and yelled, “I hate you!” over and over again. I sat back down. I presented the bill. I asked again, what could they buy with that $20 bill. Of course, it’s value had not changed. It was made by the government, who gave it it’s value, and none of us could change that value.

We were made by God, I told the children. He is the one who gave us our value. And none of us can change that value. “We will make mistakes and go through challenges, but none of that affects our value. And none of us are more valuable than anyone else.”

Do I believe that myself?

I am 100% worthy (breathe in), just the way I am (breathe out). I am 100% lovable (breathe in), just the way I am (breathe out).

Am I the “adult I want my children to be”?

Brooke’s message today? Model self-love. Let them see my setting boundaries. Let them see me love my body and speak kindly to my body. Let them know when I am going in for a massage, to take care of myself. Let them see me scraping my tongue. Talk to them about my mantra. Let them only hear me say kind words about myself.

Also, let them see me make mistakes and own them.

“The effort of trying to work on something is powerful teaching, too…

The imperfect effort is an inspirational teacher to those who see and watch. Because they too are imperfect. It’s the same journey we have to walk for ourselves.”

Let them experience me apologizing.

“The number one trait of influential parenting is parents who are willing to admit their mistakes.”

“I am sorry for ___________. Will you please forgive me?” Model this. Be the change that you want to see.

This week I want to look at some things that I would like to better model for my children:

  • Wednesday: Taking accountability for my results.
  • Thursday: How to make requests or set boundaries from a place of love.
  • Friday: Taking care of myself by setting boundaries around my sleep.
  • Sunday: The race is against sin, not against each other. The Lord makes no horizontal comparisons.
  • Monday: I can choose to love some, just the way they are. They are 100% lovable, just the way they are.

“Be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”

1 Timothy 4:12

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