Today we went on a bike ride up the canyon, as a family. It was beautiful! We took our time and really enjoyed our ride. By the time we were headed back, it was close to dusk and bugs kept smashing into our eyes and mouths, as we rode at 20 miles an hour down the mountain. Yuck. So funny. So memorable. So nice on our Saturday.
For SATURDAY SO WHAT today, I want to go through yesterday’s activity again. Let’s look at what we discussed yesterday:
“Force is trying to control other people in the world.
Power is creating yourself in your own world, mentally, physically, and emotionally.
That quiet work that we do when we self-coach ourselves puts us in a position of power.”
In what areas of my life have I abdicated power? What decisions can I make now that will give me back that power? Is the “why” behind that decision strong enough to enable me to make and stand strong in that decision? Is that “why” reflecting who I really am, and who I really want to be?
Yesterday I talked about my teeth – it was an easy example, that didn’t need to mean much. Let’s look at something more serious and more consequential today:
- In what areas of my life have I abdicated power?
- When I am with certain people, I give them or give my lower brain or maybe even my past, power over my thoughts, and thus my feelings. I feel feelings that I am not able to get out of easily. I do not have power.
- What decisions can I make now that will give me back that power?
- We know that we do not have control over circumstances – the people around us, right? But what we do have control over, unless we give it up to someone or something else, is our thoughts. I can decide what thoughts will serve me best, in those relationships. I can practice those thoughts, daily. These things are entirely in my control.
- I could also decide to take a break from that relationship, or close that relationship all together. That is also in my control.
- Is the “why” behind that decision strong enough to enable me to make and stand strong in that decision? Is that “why” reflecting who I really am, and who I really want to be?
- I want a different experience, with reference to people that have a tendency to unglue me. For whatever reason, my thoughts when I am with them are not being managed well by me. I want to change that experience for me. Why? Because I want a different life experience. Because I want to be an example to my children in managing myself in difficult relationships. Because I love God, and God loves these people. Because I am 100% lovable, just the way I am, and so are they.
- If my “why” were to prove myself above them or bring attention and praise to myself or prove that I am right, or to try and control them, or whatever, that would not represent the future me that I am growing a relationship with right now. That is in no way who I think I am or want to become. But my “why” is a new life experience. My “why” is my children. My “why” is to increase my love-ability. I can get behind that!
I am creating myself, in my world – mentally, physically, and emotionally.