UNLOCKING US WITH BRENE BROWN – 27 March 2020
Just a quick one tonight. Just something I picked up from Brene in this episode on suffering. And there was a lot more she discussed, but again, this is just one of the things that I picked up, that made a lot of sense to me.
Brene talks about:
“Settling the ball.”
She talks about watching kids playing soccer. They chase the ball and chase the ball, and no one let the ball “settle” – no one uses bodies to bring the ball down, to look around, and to get strategic about where they need to go next, as a player and as a team.
“We do not have infinite energy to continue to kick the ball at shoulder height. We are going to need to settle the ball. And we are going to need to create a new normal, and grieve the loss of normal, at the same time.”
Elder Jeffrey R Holland says something similar:
“Watch for the stress indicators in yourself… As with your automobile, be alert to rising temperatures, excessive speed, or a tank low on fuel.”Jeffrey R Holland
Brene’s strategy for “settling the ball” is this: Name where I am at, out loud, to my husband. Am I at 20% or am I at 50% or am I all the way down to 5%? Name it. And if I am at 20% and he is at 50%, we have a 30% gap, right? Then have a GAP PLAN.
This is Brene’s GAP PLAN:
- Move your body
- Eat well
- Accept apologies
What GAP PLAN would serve Bryant and me well?