DAY #253 COMPARATIVE SUFFERING


UNLOCKING US WITH BRENE BROWN – 27 March 2020

Just a quick one tonight. Just something I picked up from Brene in this episode on suffering. And there was a lot more she discussed, but again, this is just one of the things that I picked up, that made a lot of sense to me.

Brene talks about:

“Settling the ball.”

She talks about watching kids playing soccer. They chase the ball and chase the ball, and no one let the ball “settle” – no one uses bodies to bring the ball down, to look around, and to get strategic about where they need to go next, as a player and as a team.

“We do not have infinite energy to continue to kick the ball at shoulder height. We are going to need to settle the ball. And we are going to need to create a new normal, and grieve the loss of normal, at the same time.”

Elder Jeffrey R Holland says something similar:

“Watch for the stress indicators in yourself… As with your automobile, be alert to rising temperatures, excessive speed, or a tank low on fuel.”

Jeffrey R Holland

Brene’s strategy for “settling the ball” is this: Name where I am at, out loud, to my husband. Am I at 20% or am I at 50% or am I all the way down to 5%? Name it. And if I am at 20% and he is at 50%, we have a 30% gap, right? Then have a GAP PLAN.

This is Brene’s GAP PLAN:

  • Sleep
  • Move your body
  • Eat well
  • Accept apologies
  • Laugh

What GAP PLAN would serve Bryant and me well?

Previous DAY #252 FUTURE SELF IN UNCERTAINTY (again)
Next DAY #254 DRESS FOR THE JOB YOU WANT, NOT THE JOB YOU HAVE

No Comment

Leave a reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *