THE NEXT RIGHT THING – Episode 134
This past week I have been finalizing my article for publication on adult children of divorce. In the article I talk about learning how to pray from where I was at – hurt, angry, full of judgement as well as guilt and shame. Praying from that place was such a new experience for me.
Today’s hostess, Emily Freeman, talks about fire. She talks about the heat of controlled fires. These fires are set, in a controlled environment, to make room for new life. They are controlled, yes, and they are with purpose, yes, but they are still hot! And they are still real!
And then there are the fires that are not controlled, not planned, not on purpose. House fires, for example, leave a shell that resembles the original edifice, but stench and loss and emptiness inside – no life, no light, no purpose.
What about in your life? What about the fires in mine?
“What kind of fire is this?”
Is it a “controlled burn”. Or destruction. Leaving only a shell. Both happen.
And, what’s the next right step? How do you pray when you are burned up and burned out?
Let’s use Psalm 13 as a model:
“How long wilt thou forget me, O Lord? …How long wilt thou hide thy face from me? How long shall I take counsel in my soul, having sorrow in my hear daily?
Consider and hear me, O Lord, my God. Lighten mine eyes, lest I sleep the sleep of death.
…I have trusted in thy mercy; my heart shall rejoice in my salvation. I will sing unto the Lord, because He hath death bountifully with me.”Psalm 13
First, dump it all out. “How long wilt thou forget me, O Lord? …How long wilt thou hide thy face from me? How long shall I take counsel in my soul, having sorrow in my hear daily?” I call this a “thought dump”. It’s part of my morning routine. The principle is this: Get it out. All of it. Then choose what to put back in. It is about thinking intentionally, making room for creation and new life. Some people call it a brain dump or mental dump – it’s used by many different people, and in different ways. A lot of times it is something you’d do in a journal. Sometimes on a piece of paper that you burn afterwards, or tie to a helium balloon and let it fly away.
What about doing this activity in prayer? Pour out your heart, so He can fill it back up.
Second, an honest request. “Consider and hear me, O Lord, my God. Lighten mine eyes, lest I sleep the sleep of death.” This part of the prayer for me, over this past year, has sounded like this: “Please, Lord. Help me see.”
Third, close our prayer in praise. “I have trusted in thy mercy; my heart shall rejoice in my salvation. I will sing unto the Lord, because He hath death bountifully with me.” I love this. Closing our prayer in praise, even from a sad and low, life-less and light-less place, creates life in us and light in us.
“What we focus on is what we will create more of in our lives.”https://livingandtravelingwithkids.com/2020/09/day-love-and-hate/