BETTER THAN HAPPY – Episode 69
For the past two days we really talked about cleaning up our own thoughts. This is an ongoing work. And it’s an absolutely fascinating work. This morning, writing in my SFD Journal, I saw some corners that I could really clean up in my own mind, before having a conversation with my child. And once I’d done that work – 20 minutes with my journal is really all it took – I was in an entirely different place! I felt less urgency about the circumstance, and I liked the new feelings I felt with the new thoughts that I chose. I love this work. I am so grateful for this work.
“When you get yourself to a peaceful place, then you are ready to talk to your child.”
And this information is not at all new – it’s what we have been working on with ourselves. Jody here gives us a tool, to help us now teach this information to our child.
TOOL #2 PROCESSING EMOTION
- Name the emotion – Remember that emotions are ONE word answers. (shame, guilt, worry, stress, fear, sadness, etc…) If your child is able to name it, great. If not you can help them. “It sounds like you’re feeling a lot of disappointment. Is that right?”
- Help them lean into it by describing it. “Where do you feel it in your body? What does it feel like? How would you describe this emotion to an alien that had never had that emotion before? What color is it?”
- Keep naming it and talking about it to help the child process it.
- If the child is old enough to understand, teach them that emotions are just chemicals released by the brain when we think thoughts. They will not hurt us. They are our brains way of protecting us but often there is no real danger.
“The is no emotion you can’t handle.”