BROOKE SNOW THE PODCAST – Episode 79
“As we get better at our turn arounds, we get faster at our turn arounds.”
This was the last thought Brooke left us with yesterday. And I wanted to spend this entire post on that thought alone.
Brooke told the story of a martial arts student, and the master. The student kept losing his balance, over and over again, until he became discouraged. Watching the master, he commented, “You never lose your balance! And I keep falling down!” The master said in response:
“I am constantly losing my balance. I simply have learned to notice it faster.”
I love the lesson in this statement. As imperfect humans, having a human experience, we will lose balance. We cannot be perfect. It isn’t possible. It isn’t required of us. It is even unhealthy to expect this of ourselves or to reach for perfection in our state. We will constantly lose our balance – the old probably as frequently as the young. But what we can do is “learn to notice it faster”. See it in ourselves. And correct it in ourselves. Quickly and wholly. Turn around.
This past week Bry was in Idaho, at a cattle-drive. It was a lot of hours of quiet, a lot of time to think. On turn-arounds, on that “U” shape we have been discussing, he had another thought he shared with me when he got back. What if we are not meant to go from good (the top of the U) to bad (the dip in the U) and back up to good (the top of the U on the other side). What if, on the other side, we are meant to go further, to great! More like a “J”, right? For example, if my relationship with Bry was good, and then we had an experience that caused our relationship to dip some – maybe an argument or maybe a job loss or maybe a wayward child, whatever it is that would cause some strain on our relationship – getting back up to good would feel comfortable, right? But what if we could learn from the experience and grow even closer in a way that our relationship, on the other side, was great. Like a “J”.