THE LIFE COACH SCHOOL PODCAST – Episode 341
“We, as humans, are designed to ache for more. And I’m not talking about aching for more from a place of not-enoughness. But I’m talking about aching for more from a place of expansion, from a place of growth … to be the fullest expression of who we can possibly be. It is the sweetest most amazing aching, longing for more goodness, for more accomplishment, for more expression.”
Elder Uchtdorf says it this way:
“The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul.”Elder Uchtdorf
Now then, that is the difference between “gratitude”” and wanting what you already have” – creation. Gratitude is a beautiful way to live life. And it will always serve us well. But wanting what you already have means that that is not the end – “thank you” is not the end. We want it, care for it, make more of it – creation.
“One of the most powerful things you can do to practice desire, to practice the energy of desire is by wanting what you already have… Wanting what you have will stir more desire. You want what you have, and you want more. It’s an energy that builds upon itself.'”
Let’s start there. I am grateful for my beautiful marriage to Bryant. And I want what I have. Want is an action word. Want creates more. When I want what I have, I create more of what I have. I create more beauty.
“It sounds so cliché that we can change the world, but we really genuinely can, when we acknowledge how important it is to be aware of (our desires).”
Whenever I think of desire, I think about Elder Neal A Maxwell. One of my favorite addresses that he gave is According to the Desires of our Hearts. I want to close with some of the thoughts Elder Maxwell shares on desires:
“Whether in their conception or expression, our desires profoundly affect the use of our moral agency. Desires thus become real determinants … Of course our genes, circumstances, and environments matter very much, and they shape us significantly. Yet there remains an inner zone in which we are sovereign, unless we abdicate. In this zone lies the essence of our individuality and our personal accountability.”
“Each assertion of a righteous desire, each act of service, and each act of worship, however small and incremental, adds to our spiritual momentum. Like Newton’s Second Law, there is a transmitting of acceleration as well as a contagiousness associated with even the small acts of goodness. Fortunately for us, our loving Lord will work with us, ‘even if [we] can [do] no more than desire to believe,’ providing we will ‘let this desire work in [us]’ (Alma 32:27).”
“The work of eternity is not done in a moment, but, rather, in ‘process of time.’ Time works for us when our desires do likewise!”
What does that look like – our desires working for us? It looks like the creation of a business, it looks like the creation of a loving home, it looks like the creation of self, or the fullest expression of self. As my true desires work in me, time isn’t an issue – I’m in no rush. The process feels – and actually is – as important to me, and even as enjoyable to me, as the result, or the outcome. Becoming ME isn’t somewhere I end up. There’s ME – head in that direction! And I’ll be happy once I finally get to that destination of ME! No, not at all. I love and accept me where I am at, and I love the process of growth and the strengthening of those true desires.
One of the greatest blessings of the Spirit is that it will “fill us with desire” (3 Nephi 19:24). I don’t think that It will create a desire from nothing, but “bring to remembrance” (John 14:26) what our soul has always desired – what our true desires are, have been, and will continue to be, because they are a part of us.